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Today, I want to discuss how to deal with toxic and negative people. The reason for this today’s topic is because I know how frustrating it makes you feel as I have been there myself. Toxic people tend to make you feel trapped and guilty. They are manipulative people and like to confuse others and they are masters in lies and great actors. They are also abusive, unsupportive, controlling, use others and overall, they make you feel sad and they make you doubt yourself always.
Here are five easy ways to help you when dealing with toxic people
1- Have empathy for those Toxic people
Whether they are family member, friends, or co-workers, it does not matter what position they are because normally toxic person is very sad and angry, and you need to have some empathy for them. You do not need to be negative or toxic like them but you need to feel sorry for them so you could move on and have a different perceptive for the whole situation. Also, have empathy does not mean you get personal. Avoid getting personal because toxic people will use personal information to provoke reactions or to get a reaction. Since know you have identified that that person is toxic make sure you shut down any manipulative conversations and do not share anything personal with that person.
2- Stay Calm and grounded
This could be difficult one to do because toxic people will play games to get your reaction, however, do not let that person control your mind. You are responsible for your own actions only and they are responsible for theirs’s. The fact they cannot acknowledge that is not your problem. Let their word bounce back at them as their words will not affect you whatsoever. If you feel you are about to react or feeling angry the simplest way you can take a walk for five minutes around the house or in the garden or even take a few deep breaths slowly and deeply to calm you down. Once you are in charge of your mind and actions, you will feel empowered and you will feel untouchable.
3- Set clear boundaries
Boundaries are different from one person to another. You need to know your limits and what is acceptable and what is not acceptable to you. You also know your worth and do not allow anyone to tell you otherwise. You need to first respect yourself and create your boundaries. After you do that you need to maintain your boundaries. You also must be clear about your emotions and communicate your emotions and boundaries effectively. Remember it takes time for people to adapt to your new boundaries and it is going to hard, but you must stick to it. It is important that you communicate properly about your boundaries. You may look as if you are selfish but that will be temporarily because you need to understand yourself better and maintain your boundaries to stop any toxic behaviour or unwanted behaviour that you do not want. Once you have mastered that you will have a new healthy dynamic relationship with the people.
4- Get some help and support system
One of the things that helped me when I was facing adversities was finding my own support system. That was family, friends, and professional support such as councillors and coaches. It is important to find the right support for yourself and your needs. You do not have to alone and lonely and you do not need to pressure on yourself. It is important to choose wisely a friend that you can depend on and trust with your vulnerabilities. Surround yourself with like-minded people who share your dreams and who can lift you up to the right direction. Also, do not be afraid to seek professional help if you need as you will get a different perspective from a different person and will direct you to the right path and support you. One of things that you can do to find a support system is volunteering. I love volunteering because I get to meet new people and create new friendship as well as doing something amazing to our society. You also need to realize what a type of person you want to be. A wise and strong person know when to get help or support when needed. You will also be in the position to help others and support them.
5- Stay away
If you really can not deal anymore with that toxic person, the best thing you could do for yourself is to keep away from that toxic person. You cannot lose yourself and who you are because of that toxic person. You must say no and keep away from that toxic person and respect yourself even by keeping away. Also, understand what makes that toxic person and why they are unhappy and once you understand that you will be to adjust your expectation based on that person behaviour. So, act and figure out what you want to do and maintain that. I believe it is better to be alone than being with a toxic person and toxic environment. The time will get better and you will see the dramatic change in your life when you eliminate that toxic person from your life.
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